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My Journey to Kindfulness

In 2007 I was assaulted. I suffered physical injuries, which took the best part of a year to recover from, but the psychological effects from the trauma shook me to my core and unbeknown to me at the time, they would be the gateway to starting a new path in my life. With hindsight, I believe in many ways, it was the best thing that ever happened to me. (It still feels bizarre to say that out loud!)

 

I was diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder. My confidence vanished, I no longer wanted to socialise and I clung to the closest people around me with smothering desperation.  With the help and unrelenting patience of a few of my beloved nearest and dearest, understanding and supportive work colleagues and an amazing therapist, I started to recover myself and my new journey began....

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I always remember the first conversation with my therapist, he asked me, “So what do you want to get out of these sessions?” I replied, “I just want to get back to how I was before” to which he responded, “well I don’t think I can help you. I specialise in evolution and growth.” You can understand why we are still friends!

 

Prior to this I'd never really heard of mindfulness, never meditated and although I thought I had been happy, I realise now that my life had been based on reacting to what life gave me, rather than being proactive and seeking out what I wanted. I wasn't living a particularly conscious life. 

Having experienced the transformative effects of mindfulness in my recovery, I developed a passion for wellbeing with mindfulness at the core. 

From Post Traumatic Stress to Post Traumatic Growth
 

2007-2008 was a tough year, both personally and professionally. At the time I was in a high pressured sales management role and a lot of things were changing in my personal life too. My best friend started dating her now husband, my beloved dog died and my confidence in my physical and psychological self was incredibly shaky. I was a difficult person to deal with on all levels, but thankfully no one gave up on me. However, it wasn’t all bad. I still managed to laugh every time my bestie and I woke up in a morning after a few drinks wondering where I’d put my temporary teeth! And they were a great way to ward off unwanted advances! 

By March 2008 I started to see a few chinks of light shining through. To celebrate the end of my physical recovery (and a permanent set of teeth!), my best friend and I went off to Canada (to visit my mum and have a snowy adventure) and then on to New York for sunshine and fun. It was very cathartic and gave me a taste for adventure.

 

This process of recovery and the work with my therapist led me to start questioning the direction of my life. I felt I needed a break from the rat race, some timeout to discover myself and the world. So in June 2009 I took a sabbatical and set off on a 5 month solo trip around the world, but not before I got my black belt in kick boxing! I’d been working towards this before the assault and was now determined to achieve it. I’d never travelled alone before and I threw myself right in at the deep end! It was an enlightening experience and one which has helped shape the person I am today, igniting my passion for travel and deepening my passion for the natural world 

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"Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world.
Today I am wise so I am changing myself" - Rumi

Following my return my life has been one of constant change. I moved to London, I studied and completed a degree in Psychology and Philosophy while working, I left my corporate career of 15 years and re-trained to be an English teacher. ...and I’ve travelled.....A LOT! It was during my time as an English teacher that I started teaching meditation classes - I subsequently completed my Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction teacher training and qualified as a yoga teacher. I don’t think I would ever have been courageous enough to make these changes had I not been introduced to mindfulness and positive psychology. 

Yes, I still have my dark days and I still suffer from ongoing anxiety, overwhelm and perfectionism from time to time, but thanks to all the defining moments that have gone before and the techniques I’ve learned along the way, I feel better able to deal with what life throws at me. Life is good! I’m blessed with the wonderful friends and family who’ve been there for me throughout my journey. I love what I do now and I’m constantly learning and growing. I’ve always been inquisitive by nature, but it was this recovery and self-discovery process that ignited my passion and interest in the power of our minds; psychology, mindfulness, gratitude, compassion and self-care.

 

I’m a straight talking, no-nonsense Northern girl, so initially I was sceptical about some of the mindfulness, meditation and positivity practices I’d tried and read about, but I’ve found a way to make these practices work for me. That’s why I’ve called my business The Kindfulness Effect; because Mindfulness isn’t a one-size fits all solution. I believe and know from my own experience that the combination of mindful practice, conscious kindness and gratitude and training your mind as well as your body, can lead to a happier, healthier and more conscious and fulfilling life and that because we are all connected, taking care of our own wellbeing impacts and inspires others and radiates out into the world. 

 

As my former therapist and now friend said to me, I’ve gone from post traumatic stress to post traumatic growth!  

My Mission is to inform, inspire and empower people to lead happier, healthier and more conscious, connected and fulfilling lives, by creating a ripple effect of mindfulness, kindness and gratitude.

 

The Kindfulness Effect starts with you. 

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This quote by Scott Stabile really represents what The Kindfulness Effect is all about: 
“She felt like doing her part to change the world,
so she started by giving thanks for all the blessings of her life,
rather than bemoaning all that was missing from it.

Then she complimented her reflection in the mirror,
instead of criticizing it as she usually did.
Next she walked into her neighbourhood and offered her smile to everyone she passed, whether or not they offered theirs to her.

Each day she did these things, and soon they became habit.
Each day she lived with more gratitude, more acceptance, more kindnesss.

And sure enough, the world around her began to change.
Because she had decided so, she was single-handedly doing her part to change it”"

- SCOTT STABILE

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